In case you haven't heard, we've been reading Romeo and Juliet. In Act III, Juliet's Dad promises Paris, another man in Verona, Juliet's hand in marriage. (Big mistake!) I'd have to definitely say it is better to love than it is to learn to love. As you can see in the book, when Juliet is asked to learn to love, she ends up killing herself. It just wasn't the way it was supposed to happen! Love is an extremely strong feeling and I don't think we have much control over it. You can learn to like someone or appreciate them but it takes a lot of effort and doesn't always work to trick your heart and mind into wanting to spend your whole life with someone you didn't choose. That's another thing. Part of growing up is making your own decisions, falling in love and marriage. When parents arrange marriages, they skip the whole rite of ritual for kids changing into adults by not trusting their child to make the correct choice for a spouse. A parent should be there to guide a their children away from bad relationships and broken hearts but they aren't able to change someone's innermost feelings for someone. If you want any more proof that arranged marriage isn't the way love should be can be found in the Bible. God CHOSE to love us unconditionally, He wasn't forced by anyone. We shouldn't have to be forced into loving; the consequences may be grave. (No pun intended!)
KTUPD8 (Katie Update!)
Speaking of love, we had a four day weekend on Valentine's day! That Friday we drove down to Houston (actually it was Katy) for an engagement party! It was a blast! Actually I didn't go to the party, but just hanging around a friend's house was exciting! The wedding is in April and by dad is going to be the best man! (Sorry for my overuse of exclamation points, I just had a lot of fun! Ugh! There I go again...) When we got home, I started on my science project... ugh. But it is due in March, so it isn't that bad! Alright, until next time! Katie.
2 comments:
Wasn't a good majority of the marriages in the Bible either non-consensual or arranged?
Heck, I'm pretty sure I remember a part in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah that it was perfectly ok for Lot to say "I have two daughters which have not known man; let me, I pray you, bring them out unto you, and do ye to them as is good in your eyes."
While I am no Bible expert, but 1 Corinthians 7 reads: "But if any man thinks that he is acting unbecomingly toward his virgin daughter, ...let him do what he wishes, he does not sin; let her marry. ...So then both he who gives his own virgin daughter in marriage does well, and he who does not give her in marriage will do better."
What does that passage in Corinthians have anything to do with arranged marriages? It just says that you don't have to get married and it isn't a sin to not get married. I don't get your point. Alright, most of their marriages were arranged but that is an example the Israelites set, not one God set for us.
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